Just Because


I hate to clean!

I am using the word hate here!  Strong emotion.  Why?

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As important and even healthy as it is, it is also usually frustrating.  If you have a family that includes small children, then you know what I mean.  I could clean the bathroom 100 times every day and it would still look like the worst off-brand, no locks on the doors, gas station “restroom”!  Nothing restful about that.

Perhaps I should be happy about that–it means that the space is getting the use for which it is intended.  I just can’t work up the enthusiasm for it.

Seems to me that life is like that “restroom” too.  We usually don’t clean-up until we’re totally disgusted, fed up and have no alternative.   Then, in typical human form, we wait two more years before we start.  How in the world did we ever survive to 2011?

What makes change so difficult for everyone? 

My dad used to say that growing up is a lot harder than anyone tells you.  He was right–and it never stops being harder than anyone tells you!  Change is the unknown.  We think we figured out a way to survive the familiar, so we cling to it like a life raft.  We are all caught up in that mess that won’t be tidy, clinging to the life raft.  In my social service work, I regularly encountered people for whom life resembled the never tidy restroom.  Addiction, loss, isolation and fear are the mess that won’t be tidy.

It is messy in my life sometimes.  What are the untidy parts of your life?

The last couple of years have been filled with change.  Change in living situations, change in employment, change in family structure, change in economics, change in politics…….. Even the earth itself is shaking and changing, quaking and erupting!  We cling to the life raft tighter and tighter.  Nothing restful about all that.

One of the things that I have learned (the hard way!) is that the cleaning part helps.  As much as I hate to admit it, it does!

I have done some renovations to this blog site and will continue to make more.  I want to thank my friend Richard Kraneis for pointing out the most obvious issue yesterday.  He’s been around the blog block a few times and knows what he is talking about!  Thanks Richard!           I am inching my way towards tidy!   

I think it has to do with the engagement of a different part of the human brain.  By doing the mundane things that cleaning requires, you burn calories, release endorphins, focus on manual tasks and then the other processes of the brain have a chance to “reboot”, “resort” and “rework” the problems that can preoccupy us.  The end result is that not only will the cleaning give some satisfaction in the measurable change, you may be able to get some of the answers when you give the brain a chance to do it’s thing in the background.  Bonus!

We can let go of the life raft and find rescue and rest, even if it only lasts until the next kid rushes into the house.  Bonus!

What is the cleaning you need to do bring that “Bonus!”?

Article:  http://stress.about.com/od/tensiontamers/a/cleaning.htm

Just Because

Did anyone say focus?

Focus.  That is what I need today.  My head is everywhere–the difficult conversation I had with Mom before I left the house, the weather report proclaiming heat index in 3 digits for Friday/Saturday, and the last story I heard on NPR as I arrived at the office about how a state/city should attract new jobs.  Talk about “fruit basket upset”!

I am relieved to have had the talk with Mom about the stuff (all precious to her) that she hasn’t seen in over 4 years in a storage locker in the town she used to live in about 2 hours away.  She is pondering that during the day today.  I had to tell her she can’t afford to keep it anymore and she should donate the usable items to others that can use them.  I have been putting this off for a really long time–not wanting to rock the boat.  Now that it is said I feel better but she fells worse.  But I can tell she see’s the logic in it.  Dad used to say:  “Don’t confuse me with logic–I’ve already made-up my mind!”  No doubt where she’s at, trying to make herself agree.

The weather report for the holiday weekend is daunting.  I was thinking a nice breeze, drinking coffee or wine in the backyard and reading a book.  Since we cannot make the weather (yet?), I will simply have to adjust.  See how the logic is trying to overcome the emotion??? Hummm….

Jobs, jobs, jobs–how sincerely we talk about it and how little seems to be getting done!  Listening intently to the economists and trying to understand what they are saying is becoming more than an idle pastime.  What is the right path out of this forest?  I’m sure they are trying to communicate the path but it isn’t coming through the emotional trees in front of my face.  Can’t think of folks more logical than economists (except for maybe mechanical engineers!:)) yet we cannot seem to get past the jumbled feelings that come with uncertainty.

Like I said–focus!  Anyone who has listened to TV, reads magaList cartoonzine articles or organized a family into a routine knows some of the keys to focus.  Stay grounded, make lists, and develop a schedule.  These are just a few of the abundant hints. Then why is it so hard?

The pure logic of it is dragging/pulling me  kicking and screaming into starting a list……